Relationship Counselling
Growing up my knowledge of relationships involved watching my parents’ marriage fail when I was barely 10 years old. As you get older it is hard not for something like that to have an effect on your own relationships. I didn’t meet “the one” until my early 40s but I’m now happily married and make it my mission to stay that way for the rest of my time on this planet. I fell into the trap of “hanging on to the past”. In my situation, that meant – trying to be 110% certain that when I asked someone to marry me that I would know that it would last forever as I didn’t want to make the same mistake my parents made. Unfortunately for me I probably wasted a few years with some unreasonable expectation that a relationship came with a lifelong guarantee. My point here is not to say just jump in and get married and see what happens- my point here is to say don’t let the past dictate how you behave in the future.
One thing I have seen in my journey is the amazing variety of reasons why people stay together, or people fall apart. Nothing shocks me anymore. What I can provide to you is a sounding board and an impartial point of view and help you to either move on from past relationships or help improve the relationships you are currently in.
Counselling For A Better Relationship
Without wanting to sound like a broken record there is no secret to a happy relationship- it requires work, respect and integrity. I have a saying “relationships should be easy, but they also require work”. Some people think that relationships should be easy and that this means you don’t have to do anything it should just happen and be easy. If you are one of those people, I hate to say it, but I’m concerned for your relationship future.
I regularly help men and women sort through what’s happening in their current relationship. There is no judgement, but together we come up with suggestions to create a way forward where you can have the relationship you want.
And for those of you out there that are yet to meet “the one” and have this not so helpful belief that you will never meet “the one”, I can definitely help you there!! It’s fair to say that those thoughts went through my head too, (and nearly everyone’s) and those pessimistic thoughts/beliefs can certainly grow like weeds and slowly overpower you. But trust me when I say there is hope and I would find no greater satisfaction than watching your current status go from “it’s complicated” (or worse) to “amazing”.
If you would like to know more about my relationship counselling service, feel free to book a 20-minute call on my booking page.